Boy, I had a tough week, as I struggled to communicate my heart to a friend. It didn't go over so well. However I gained some experience, learned more about my friend and myself and hopefully am moving toward a stronger, healthier relationship for both of us.
The one thing I walked away sure of is; no matter how difficult, we need to work at communicating. Problems don't just go away by themselves. The longer we take to communicate what's in our hearts, the more damaging it will be when the deed is done, because at that point the pent-up steam will be scalding. We all have witnessed marriages that have long since fore gone the work of communicating. Sometimes walls have been erected so tall that they just wont come down.
Yesterday to my surprise our pastor Steven Furtick, from Elevation Church, spoke on this very issue in a new series entitled, Entourage. He talked about the importance of screening those who have direct influence into our lives. He instructed us all to take out our cell phones. Then he said if they were filled with people who had our ear, but were indifferent or not aligned with God's vision for our lives, we needed to get NSYNC and say, Bye, Bye, Bye!!! I love that!
As hard as it is to reestablish new perimeters in long time relationships, I know it is necessary to be able to move into the things God has for our lives. If our relationships are of true quality then each party will have enough humility to bend and flow with the changes. The best part is that each party gets to learn something new about themselves in the process. Communication is the key, otherwise we just dance around the dead dog lying under the rug and we all know how stinky that can be.
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